Girl controlling | How To Get a Relationship

Are you always trying to be someone you’re not?

Do you spend your time in places that you don’t like or are you acting different then you really feel?

The big question is – Do you want girls to like you just the way you are and not the way they expect you to be? Well you should!

There are some girls that will never like you just the way you are.
Not because you are a loser but because you don’t fit into their ideal trait world.

Their potential partner list includes things like a guy who likes romance movies, eating at fancy restaurants, and whom likes to hike for hours uphill. You on the other hand love horror movies, eat only at fast food places, and would rather sit around a fire drinking and enjoying each others company.

When you are trying to get a girl who doesn’t like your traits it’s like trying to push a watermelon through a straw. It’s pretty much not going to happen. And if it does happen it’s not going to last or be as good as it could be. Why settle for that?

So here’s the awesome news and something that you should remember.
There is a girl out there who likes all the things you like and will like you for you.

In fact there are lots of girls in this world who like the same things you like and will not find fault in the person you are. Once you find one of them you’ll know it.

So the real question becomes how do you find a girl that will like you for you?

You go to the places you love and do the things you enjoy and wait for the girl that catches your eye at one of these places and then make your move.

Be yourself and don’t put on a show for her because if she likes you for what you are trying to portray to her than she may not like you for the real you later on. It’s that simple. Any girl who is not into you is not meant for you anyway.

If you are already in a relationship and your girl nitpicks at everything you do and seems to want you to be someone that you are not then you need to tell her how you feel about it. Yep you need to talk it out.

There’s no other way for her to understand what she’s doing and what it means to you.

Make sure you tell her in a non threatening way.

Don’t accuse her of trying to make you into something you’re not because she may not even realize that she’s doing it and how it affects you.

If she thinks that she’s doing nothing wrong or can’t seem to understand what you are trying to say to her than maybe it’s time to either get professional help to see if she can understand from someone else telling her or maybe you should move on from the relationship for good.

The thing to remember is that you shouldn’t have to settle for someone who does not like you for you. You shouldn’t have to act fake or different from who you really are just to get a girl to like you.

You can’t change who you are or how you feel about life but you can change how other people make you feel. Find someone who makes you feel good about yourself and who you are as a person. Find someone you can enjoy being around every second that you are with them.

Bellaisa is an advocate for happy and stable relationships with yourself and with others and she is the owner of The Relationship Circle. For more information on how to find love or fix a relationship issue visit

Get women to notice me • How To Get a Relationship…

Ever heard the expression that your behavior strongly signifies what you are feeling inside?

It’s all about body language and what you are portraying to the world that really sends the message about how you REALLY fee inside.

So if you are trying to get women or impress women then you have to be aware of what you are displaying to women through your body language and actions.

Essentially if you act stupid then the girls are going to think you are stupid. So if you don’t want girls to think that you are stupid then act smart. It’s a very simple concept actually, but ignored by many guys (and women) when trying to impress someone.

So how do you make sure you are sending the message you want with your body language?

1. Make Sure Your Feelings are Aligned With What You Want To Portray To The World

This means that if you want the world to see you as a happy and intelectual guy then feel happy and intelectual.

If you want women to see you as a sex god who can take care of their every need then feel confident around, and with, women.

Whatever you feel inside will naturally express itself on the outside. So you have to feel the emotions you want to portray if you are going to come across as naturally being that guy.

2. Keep Your Body Language in Check

I used to get accused of frowing when I was actually smiling. This shocked me when I was accused, but when I finally looked in the mirror I realized that my face actually did look like a frown when I was smiling!
You have to be aware of what you look like to other people and the best way to do that is to look at yourself!

Stand in front of a mirror and naturally make expressions that you would make while talking, walking, standing, thinking, and genereally doing anything. Check and see if your body language actually expresses what you are feeling, and if it doesn’t then fix it.

You may be sending off a message to that girl you like that you think she’s ugly when you are really trying to make her think she’s hot. Sometimes a simple change in body langauge can do that. Check your facial expressions, hand gestures, stance, eye contact, and everything else that you notice

3. Take Feedback and Use It.

If a girl tells you that you are a jerk, and you didn’t try to portray a jerk, then ask her why she thinks that. If she tells you that you gave her a dirty look or made a rude gesture don’t argue with her. Instead take her for her word and work on that particular look or gesture.

Feedback from women (and everyone else) should be taken as a way to improve youself and the message you ar sending the world. It’s valuable. So don’t let your ego or pride get in the way of learning something form it.

Always make sure to keep your body language lined up with your feelings – and maybe even to hide your feelings sometimes – and your chances of getting women will increase.

Want more tips on how to get women? The visit Bellaisa’s website at Pleasure Her Tonight.

Get Out of The Friend Zone

Attract Women Do you find that you always end up being in ‘ the friend zone ‘ with women that you are trying to attract?

Are you starting to wonder if you have a major physical flaw that only allows women to see you as that nice guy who she doesn’t want to date romantically?

The chances of it being your looks alone are pretty slim.

There are men all over the world with unconventional looks (not the pretty boy by any means) who have women falling all over them. So if you are blaming you landing in the friend zone solely on your looks then you can throw that idea out the window now.

The truth is you are sending off the wrong vibes to these women through your approach, attitude, and confidence level. You are making crucial errors that are not allowing women to see you for the sexy stud you are but instead just for the nice guy that only makes up a part of who you are.

Here are a few things to think about:

When You Approach Women

The approach is one of the most important things you will do when attracting women. The first move is the literally the first impression of you and you want to make sure she see’s a sexy guy that she is interested in.

Women tend to pick their ideal partner from a variety of things she see’s, hears, and feels. The way you look, the way you make her feel, the way you look after yourself, your confidence level, whether you get her or not, how you treat other people, the way you move – and many other things.

It’s very possibly that you may almost have what a woman is ideally looking for in her mate, and just a small change in the way you move, communicate, or even smell may make a woman think differently about you.

This is a fact, and there are examples of this everywhere. I personally have had men approach me that I didn’t notice as a potential love interest for whatever reason, and then approach me again a few weeks later dressed differently and with a different attitude – and I noticed them instantly.

It was always a small change that made me look at them differently. One guy had changed his cologne and that one cologne was ALWAYS a smell that I was attracted to. It wasn’t the guy that changed, it was the smell. So try something new!

Your Attitude With Women

Your attitude with women is extremely important. It can put you in the friend category very quickly, and it can also put you in the jerk category if you head to the other extreme. You want to put yourself somewhere in the middle of that spectrum.

For example, if you are a guy who is funny and can make anyone laugh but you don’t offer anything in the way of sexiness, romance, or understanding of a woman’s needs, then you will probably end up in the friend side of the spectrum for most woman.

On the other hand, if you have a sense of humor to die for and you know how to make a woman feel appreciated, understood, and protected, then you are heading more to the middle of the spectrum and your chances of attracting women as lovers is high.

What you want to do is get out there and work on yourself in all areas. If you have the sense of humor but don’t understand women then learn how women think. If you understand how women think but you offer nothing in the personality department then work on your personality! Becoming a mutli-layered guy will make you much more attractive to women and make you a more interesting person all around.

Get girl to like me for me

Are you always trying to be someone you’re not?

Do you spend your time in places that you don’t like or are you acting different then you really feel?

The big question is – Do you want girls to like you just the way you are and not the way they expect you to be? Well you should!

There are some girls that will never like you just the way you are.

Not because you are a loser but because you don’t fit into their ideal trait world.

Their potential partner list includes things like a guy who likes romance movies, eating at fancy restaurants, and whom likes to hike for hours uphill. You on the other hand love horror movies, eat only at fast food places, and would rather sit around a fire drinking and enjoying each others company.

When you are trying to get a girl who doesn’t like your traits it’s like trying to push a watermelon through a straw. It’s pretty much not going to happen. And if it does happen it’s not going to last or be as good as it could be. Why settle for that?

So here’s the awesome news and something that you should remember.
There is a girl out there who likes all the things you like and will like you for you.

In fact there are lots of girls in this world who like the same things you like and will not find fault in the person you are. Once you find one of them you’ll know it.

So the real question becomes how do you find a girl that will like you for you?

You go to the places you love and do the things you enjoy and wait for the girl that catches your eye at one of these places and then make your move.
Be yourself and don’t put on a show for her because if she likes you for what you are trying to portray to her than she may not like you for the real you later on. It’s that simple. Any girl who is not into you is not meant for you anyway.

If you are already in a relationship and your girl nitpicks at everything you do and seems to want you to be someone that you are not then you need to tell her how you feel about it. Yep you need to talk it out.

There’s no other way for her to understand what she’s doing and what it means to you.

Make sure you tell her in a non threatening way.

Don’t accuse her of trying to make you into something you’re not because she may not even realize that she’s doing it and how it affects you.

If she thinks that she’s doing nothing wrong or can’t seem to understand what you are trying to say to her than maybe it’s time to either get professional help to see if she can understand from someone else telling her or maybe you should move on from the relationship for good.

The thing to remember is that you shouldn’t have to settle for someone who does not like you for you. You shouldn’t have to act fake or different from who you really are just to get a girl to like you.
You can’t change who you are or how you feel abou

t life but you can change how other people make you feel. Find someone who makes you feel good about yourself and who you are as a person. Find someone you can enjoy being around every second that you are with them.

Bellaisa is an advocate for happy and stable relationships with yourself and with others and she is the owner of The Relationship Circle. For more information on how to find love or fix a relationship issue visit

Get a woman • How To Get a Relationship…

Ever heard the expression that your behavior strongly signifies what you are feeling inside?

It’s all about body language and what you are portraying to the world that really sends the message about how you REALLY fee inside.
So if you are trying to get women or impress women then you have to be aware of what you are displaying to women through your body language and actions.

Essentially if you act stupid then the girls are going to think you are stupid. So if you don’t want girls to think that you are stupid then act smart. It’s a very simple concept actually, but ignored by many guys (and women) when trying to impress someone.

So how do you make sure you are sending the message you want with your body language?

1. Make Sure Your Feelings are Aligned With What You Want To Portray To The World

This means that if you want the world to see you as a happy and intelectual guy then feel happy and intelectual.

If you want women to see you as a sex god who can take care of their every need then feel confident around, and with, women.

Whatever you feel inside will naturally express itself on the outside. So you have to feel the emotions you want to portray if you are going to come across as naturally being that guy.

2. Keep Your Body Language in Check

I used to get accused of frowing when I was actually smiling. This shocked me when I was accused, but when I finally looked in the mirror I realized that my face actually did look like a frown when I was smiling!

You have to be aware of what you look like to other people and the best way to do that is to look at yourself!

Stand in front of a mirror and naturally make expressions that you would make while talking, walking, standing, thinking, and genereally doing anything. Check and see if your body language actually expresses what you are feeling, and if it doesn’t then fix it.

You may be sending off a message to that girl you like that you think she’s ugly when you are really trying to make her think she’s hot. Sometimes a simple change in body langauge can do that. Check your facial expressions, hand gestures, stance, eye contact, and everything else that you notice

3. Take Feedback and Use It.

If a girl tells you that you are a jerk, and you didn’t try to portray a jerk, then ask her why she thinks that. If she tells you that you gave her a dirty look or made a rude gesture don’t argue with her. Instead take her for her word and work on that particular look or gesture.

Feedback from women (and everyone else) should be taken as a way to improve youself and the message you ar sending the world. It’s valuable. So don’t let your ego or pride get in the way of learning something form it.

Always make sure to keep your body language lined up with your feelings – and maybe even to hide your feelings sometimes – and your chances of getting women will increase.

Want more tips on how to get women? The visit Bellaisa’s website at Pleasure Her Tonight.

Get a girl to like you

Are you always trying to be someone you’re not?

Do you spend your time in places that you don’t like or are you acting different then you really feel?

The big question is

Do you want girls to like you just the way you are and not the way they expect you to be? Well you should!

There are some girls that will never like you just the way you are.
Not because you are a loser but because you don’t fit into their ideal trait world.

Their potential partner list includes things like a guy who likes romance movies, eating at fancy restaurants, and whom likes to hike for hours uphill. You on the other hand love horror movies, eat only at fast food places, and would rather sit around a fire drinking and enjoying each others company.

When you are trying to get a girl who doesn’t like your traits it’s like trying to push a watermelon through a straw. It’s pretty much not going to happen. And if it does happen it’s not going to last or be as good as it could be. Why settle for that?

So here’s the awesome news and something that you should remember.
There is a girl out there who likes all the things you like and will like you for you.

In fact there are lots of girls in this world who like the same things you like and will not find fault in the person you are. Once you find one of them you’ll know it.

So the real question becomes how do you find a girl that will like you for you?

You go to the places you love and do the things you enjoy and wait for the girl that catches your eye at one of these places and then make your move.
Be yourself and don’t put on a show for her because if she likes you for what you are trying to portray to her than she may not like you for the real you later on. It’s that simple. Any girl who is not into you is not meant for you anyway.

If you are already in a relationship and your girl nitpicks at everything you do and seems to want you to be someone that you are not then you need to tell her how you feel about it. Yep you need to talk it out.

There’s no other way for her to understand what she’s doing and what it means to you.

Make sure you tell her in a non threatening way.

Don’t accuse her of trying to make you into something you’re not because she may not even realize that she’s doing it and how it affects you.

If she thinks that she’s doing nothing wrong or can’t seem to understand what you are trying to say to her than maybe it’s time to either get professional help to see if she can understand from someone else telling her or maybe you should move on from the relationship for good.

The thing to remember is that you shouldn’t have to settle for someone who does not like you for you. You shouldn’t have to act fake or different from who you really are just to get a girl to like you.

You can’t change who you are or how you feel about life but you can change how other people make you feel. Find someone who makes you feel good about yourself and who you are as a person. Find someone you can enjoy being around every second that you are with them.

Bellaisa is an advocate for happy and stable relationships with yourself and with others and she is the owner of The Relationship Circle. For more information on how to find love or fix a relationship issue visit

For Women • How To Get a Relationship…

It’s going to happen.

It’s part of the first impression. When you first talk to someone for the first time they are going to ask you the one question that everyone asks – What do you do?

The question is not just a good conversation piece but it’s also a way to figure out if you are someone they are looking for…if you fit their life and also how you react to you your own life. The way you respond to this question could make or break their interest in you.

I used to be guilty of screwing up the first impression response. I’ve had many jobs in my life so let’s just say I was working at a doggy daycare that was essentially exhausting work with rewards. I would answer the ‘What do you do? ’ question like this – «Oh, I clean up shit all day. I literally work my ass off cleaning up shit and catering to dogs.» Then I would go on to complain about the job and the headaches it came with and how little money I made for doing all the crappy work.

When I look back on this negative response it’s no wonder guys didn’t respond well to my first impression. I was complaining and negative and I really didn’t put myself in a good light. If I had been smarter I would have said «I work at a doggy daycare. It’s a great job where I get tons of exercise, first-hand insight into dog behavior, and rewarded with kisses all day. That response is much more enticing, don’t you think?

After some research I now know that there have been studies done on reactions to the first impression responses and what people are looking for from them. Basically there are three things that you will be telling the asker in your first impression through your words and actions.

1. Whether they could fall in love with you.

If you haven’t heard of love of love at first sight and lovemaps then you may want to check that out. Basically it means that there’s something about you that reminds them of something good from their past.

Chances are if you are negative and whiny about yourself they you are not going to make a good first impression, and love at first sight is pretty much out the window! I mean who is going to fall in love with someone who reminds them of their whiny aunt or uncle?

2. Whether you are a confident and a passionate person

People are attracted to confidence. It’s been proven over and over again. People who are not conventionally good looking can still attract men or women by the masses if they have a high level of confidence. So if you are talking yourself down and making your life look pathetic in the first impression, then they are going to view you as not confident and a passionless person.

It’s better to make yourself look like you are right where you want to be, and as though you have many goals that you are working towards. Don’t put down anything that you do in your first impression because that shows that you are not putting any effort into your life and it’s direction. A confident person will go out and make things happen for themselves while an unsure person will sit around complaining without taking any action to move out of what they are complaining about.

3. Whether they want to talk to you anymore.

And of course if you spill out all your dirty laundry in the first impression and leave them nothing to look forward to from you then chances are they are not going to have much left to talk to you about.

You want to leave the conversation open with a piece of information that they will want to know more about. For instance, with the doggy daycare example I could have said that one of my goals in life was to open up a doggy daycare of my own so that I could run it the way I wanted it to be run.

This not only would leave a conversation opening for how to open a doggy daycare, but also how I feel it should be run, and the challenges that come with opening the daycare, and – well, so many more who, what, when, where, and why questions.

The way I left the conversation before was at a dead end. I complained about my work, I told them how much I hated it, and I didn’t give any conversation bridge to what I wanted to do in life. Essentially I made myself a lovely dead end in my first impression.

So remember when it comes to making a good first impression be positive, charming, confident, passionate, and leave them a piece of conversation that will either keep the conversation going, or leave them wanting to know more about you.

Follow These 3 Tips to Succeed on The First Date!

First Date Tips To Live By!

If You Want a Second Date

Your first date can make or break the rest of your relationship with the person you like. If you screw up the first date you may never get a second date – or even a phone call again!

3 Tips to Help Your First Date Succeed

1. Don’t Lie About Who You Are

You may not think that you are good enough in your dates eyes so you tell them that you do something you don’t, are someone you aren’t, or will be someone you won’t be. Essentially, you lie about who you are. Even if you think that your lie is a small like and it won’t have ramifications, you are wrong.

Chances are your date will sense that you are lying on some level. Your body language will give them clues that something is off about you, and if something is off about you on the first date then why would they want s second date?

Don’t risk failure on the first date because you are trying to be someone you are not. That’s silly. Either they like you for who you are or they don’t. And if they don’t like you for who you are then at least you will know that before you make another date with them!

2.  Don’t Get Too Serious

Your first date may feel like the beginning of the rest of your life together, but if you show your date that you feel that way then you may scare them away very quickly.

When you get too serious you appear needy, desperate, and clingy – and who is going to want to date someone who is one of those things? No one!
So instead of talking about where you two should spend Christmas together, try talking about your life as an individual. Your first date is about getting to know each other, not planning your second date.

3. Don’t Shock Your Date!

I was watching a show the other day about virgins trying to get laid (yes, there is a reality show about that) and they were too honest about their lives – WAY too honest. One guy was on a date with a girl and she was having a pretty good time until he laid out the virgin card. Needless to say he didn’t get a second date. If he had only waited a few more dates to tell her that then I think she may have overlooked that serious fact.

On a first date you don’t want to say something that they don’t really need to know yet. Keep the conversation about things that you want them to know about yourself and your life, but don’t get too personal – It’s only your first date!

4. Don’t Tell Them Your Life Story

Just as you don’t want to shock them with an interesting fact about you, you also don’t want to tell them everything and leave nothing for future dates. You want to create a bit of mystery about who you are and what your life entails.

Think of it this way, if they find out one interesting fact about you today, and one tomorrow, and one the next day – and son on and so forth, then they will always be intrigued by you and wonder what else they don’t know about you yet.

But if you blab everything about yourself on the first date then they have nothing left to learn about you. You won’t be someone they want to learn more about because they will know everything about you!

So keep some of your cards close to you and don’t lay it all out on the line!
Remember these 3 important first date rules and your chances of a second date will skyrocket!

Five Common Mistakes Single Men Make Though

Many of the actions and conversations that take place between two people dictate that if common sense and courtesy are used, all should be well; this can be a tall order when nerves and the unexpected are added to the mix.

Knowing which words will get another person’s attention enough to draw their interest to you may not be enough if you obliterate whatever chemistry you’ve built up by making a common dating blunder. Many people with dating questions over look the fact that coming across well requires not only taking action and getting noticed, but remembering not to do anything that may spoil the progress you’ve made.

The well known idea of «being yourself» can be applied to a good portion of dating, but consider the idea that this «self» you’re showing may not be how others see it. One must always remember that the image one hopes to present is tried against the perception of others and these may not always be alike. Though you may hope that a certain trait is endearing or an excellent part of your character, a person who doesn’t know you well may miss this completely and make a negative assumption about you.

Understanding then that every word you say and every action you take is then open to interpretation you begin to see these things you do not as a deliberate part of your character, but through the eyes of an outsider.

Once this is understood a great deal of progress can be made in improving upon those unique traits that make you who you are and how they come across to others. Being sure that the other singles you meet do get a chance to find out about you before you hit them with anything too extreme is often an essential in the dating world.

Top Five Mistakes Single Men Make:

* The Cocky Come-on: Though it is well known that confidence is an appealing trait in a man for most singles, trying to portray this trait is tricky. If a man shows too much confidence he appears to be egotistical and arrogant and this can just as easily turn people away as get their attention. Balance you healthy amount of confidence with a modesty that allows other to approach you and you may find yourself a happier man.

Fix It: Remember to be confident when approaching a single, but also maintain some level of vulnerability that allows that person some leeway on making up their mind about you.

* Desperation Declaration: In some cases loud, dramatic, even embarrassing displays may be the appropriate action to take in getting an attractive single’s attention; in most cases however this tactic is looked upon as a desperate act of a man who doesn’t take the individual he’s hitting on very seriously, so much as making a game out of the pursuit.

Announcing to some complete stranger that you would be willing to sacrifice your pride just to get their attention does not often work the way it does on the big screen and more often ends with an uncomfortable smile and retreat from the target. Though your intention may be to show this person that you are confident enough to be silly and find them interesting enough to risk a little laughter, you may not get the chance to prove your strengths with this approach.

Fix It: Real life is not a film; grand, elaborate gestures can become twisted up and perceived in the wrong way. Allow the person a chance to get to know you before taking this risk in 99% of dating situations.

* Persistence Pay Out: Some men believe that if they continue to push their way into a conversation with an attractive single that eventually this persistence will wear that person down. Not only is this act often looked upon as desperate, but has little chance of allowing the person to look past this initial meeting toward any other pleasant traits that might be lurking under the surface. Many singles may even allow the man’s participation in their discussion, a seat at the table, or at the bar, but in likelihood this approach has painted you into the corner of unattractive before you’ve had much of a chance to share.

Fix It: If your opening introduction or line doesn’t do the trick, walk away and be polite about it. In many cases if you remain in plain view, with some flirtatious, but somewhat aloof eye contact you may get another chance.
* Show Quality Ribbon: The balance between making it known that you have qualities that other singles would be likely to find attractive and simply sounding as though you’re bragging is not easily maintained. Many men who come across as though they are trying to show off are simply acting upon the very same instinct human’s have been acting upon for thousands of years: the need to impress.

Whether this display is through physical strength or perhaps a subtle hint at wealth the idea is to attract a sexy single by making use of what he has. Without this display many men would get passed up and yet with it, certain assumptions are made about ego.

Fix It: When attempting to reveal qualities about yourself which you hope will attract singles remember to be as subtle as possible. Strength is often attractive, a large ego, the opposite.

* Insult and Ridicule:

Though for many guys tips on how to approach a single may not extend too deeply into the conversation, there are some conversational blunders that seem to come up again and again. One such trait that is quite common can present itself at nearly any time, or multiple times in a conversation; this is the tendency for men to find objects of ridicule in order to appear stronger.
Boasting about your strength because you have found another person to pick on is not often the best way to win another person’s affections.

Whether it pertains to brains or brawn, most singles are not going to be impressed with your comparisons, nor your desire to make fun of others.
Fix It: Curb any habits of insulting others in order to show off and find other ways to advertise your abilities to those potentially romantic interests.

Understanding when these mistakes are made and why even the best of intentions, or attractive of personal traits, can be perceived as dating blunders can help to save you from a great deal of embarrassment and help your chances to meet and get to know other singles. More importantly, knowing what not to do in the dating world gives others an opportunity to get to know the real you.

Learn more guy tips and find answers for dating questions at

First Move Tips To Get His Attention

You may be thinking why would I want to make the first move, isn’t that a man’s job? The simple answer is no it’s not a man’s job.

The longer answer is yes men are the ones who should typically make the first move because it allows them to feel like they are the ones in pursuit of a woman – but that doesn’t mean WOMEN can not make the first move to get him to pursue her!

In fact, most of the time it is a woman who gives a man the ‘okay signal’ for him to move in. He doesn’t realize it, but the woman is the one who actually made the first move. The things you do may be so subtle that he doesn’t consider them the first move, but they are without a doubt the reason he moves in. So if you are more conscious of what you are doing to send that signal then you can literally make the first move without him knowing that it was you who actually got the ball rolling.

Another reason you don’t want to leave it solely to the man is because you may miss your opportunity with him if you wait to long. Sometimes a guy will not approach you out of fear of embarrassment or just not knowing how to do it. This could result in a bolder woman moving in for the kill before he has a chance to work up the courage to approach you – and he may like the new woman so much that he forgets all about you. So get ahead of other women and move in for the kill by using these simple first move techniques!

1. Use Your Smile

A smile conveys your interest very subtly and it also shows you are an approachable woman.   In fact, sometimes a man will not notice you until you smile – your smile is that powerful. A smile can be enough to cause attraction if you do it right. So make sure you catch him at a moment he is looking your way and give him your warmest smile that you can.

2. Shoot Him a Look

Eye contact is crucial when it comes to making a subtle first move. If you avoid eye contact with him to play shy or hard to get he may just think you are not interested in him and move on. Eye contact is a way of saying «Hey, I notice you!» and that’s exactly what you want to say to him so he can approach you knowing that he is already on your radar. So catch his gaze and lock eyes for a quick moment and then look away. Don’t stare too long though or it may get uncomfortable!

3. Get Physical

Sometimes he may be so involved in what he’s doing he doesn’t notice your gaze or smile. This is where you have to step up and make the first move to get his attention, and what better way to do that then breaking his attention with physical contact?

Brush up against him while you walk by, or put your hand on his back when trying to get passed him. I guarantee he will notice the touch and you will be able to follow it up with your smile or eye contact if you wish! This is a triple wammy of first moves and the message should be loud and clear that you are interested.

4. Say Hello

This is a great way to get his attention and show him he is on your radar. Just a quick hello with a smile will do. If he didn’t notice you before he will now because most people don’t take the time to say hello to complete strangers. In fact, we tend to walk past tons of strangers in a day that don’t even make it on our radar at all. So the simple fact that you took notice of HIM will get him curious about YOU!

5. Ask For His Help

If you want to take it a step further past hello then ask for his help with something. Guys will always be willing to help you as the enjoy helping out a woman. It can be something pretty simple too!

For example if you are at the grocery store and you spot a guy of interest then ask him if he could reach something for you on the top shelf. If he starts talking to you out of interest after your request he will feel as though he is making the first move – even though you know better.

All 5 of these first moves will get his attention and possibly his attraction. And like I said the beauty of it is if he follows up any of these moves with contact or conversation then he will feel like HE made the first move. So don’t let another guy slip through your fingers. Be subtle, but go in for the kill before another woman does!