Are you always trying to be someone you’re not?
Do you spend your time in places that you don’t like or are you acting different then you really feel?
The big question is – Do you want girls to like you just the way you are and not the way they expect you to be? Well you should!
There are some girls that will never like you just the way you are.
Not because you are a loser but because you don’t fit into their ideal trait world.
Their potential partner list includes things like a guy who likes romance movies, eating at fancy restaurants, and whom likes to hike for hours uphill. You on the other hand love horror movies, eat only at fast food places, and would rather sit around a fire drinking and enjoying each others company.
When you are trying to get a girl who doesn’t like your traits it’s like trying to push a watermelon through a straw. It’s pretty much not going to happen. And if it does happen it’s not going to last or be as good as it could be. Why settle for that?
So here’s the awesome news and something that you should remember.
There is a girl out there who likes all the things you like and will like you for you.
In fact there are lots of girls in this world who like the same things you like and will not find fault in the person you are. Once you find one of them you’ll know it.
So the real question becomes how do you find a girl that will like you for you?
You go to the places you love and do the things you enjoy and wait for the girl that catches your eye at one of these places and then make your move.
Be yourself and don’t put on a show for her because if she likes you for what you are trying to portray to her than she may not like you for the real you later on. It’s that simple. Any girl who is not into you is not meant for you anyway.
If you are already in a relationship and your girl nitpicks at everything you do and seems to want you to be someone that you are not then you need to tell her how you feel about it. Yep you need to talk it out.
There’s no other way for her to understand what she’s doing and what it means to you.
Make sure you tell her in a non threatening way.
Don’t accuse her of trying to make you into something you’re not because she may not even realize that she’s doing it and how it affects you.
If she thinks that she’s doing nothing wrong or can’t seem to understand what you are trying to say to her than maybe it’s time to either get professional help to see if she can understand from someone else telling her or maybe you should move on from the relationship for good.
The thing to remember is that you shouldn’t have to settle for someone who does not like you for you. You shouldn’t have to act fake or different from who you really are just to get a girl to like you.
You can’t change who you are or how you feel about life but you can change how other people make you feel. Find someone who makes you feel good about yourself and who you are as a person. Find someone you can enjoy being around every second that you are with them.
Bellaisa is an advocate for happy and stable relationships with yourself and with others and she is the owner of The Relationship Circle. For more information on how to find love or fix a relationship issue visit