Most women are looking for a perfect man, even when you have a man you may tend to seek perfection in him. But, in truth there are no perfect men, every man has faults and deficiencies of some kind. So, is it possible to find a perfect man? No. But it is possible to find the perfect man for you. There’s a huge difference. Every woman has some idea of what would make a man perfect, but since each person is different this qualities differ from woman to woman.
To find your perfect man, you need to look for someone who you will be happy with long and short-term. You need to compile a list of what you want or don’t want. List all the things you seek in a man, then cut that list down to around 5 and then put those in order of importance. Then do the same with a list of things you don’t want in a man.
Now let’s focus on you. What do you have to offer a man. Write a list of where you are now, first a list of things that may attract someone. These are the qualities that people tell you, that you have. Such as being a great conversationalist, outgoing, and active. Then write a list of qualities that may not attract someone. These can be things such as being a workaholic, being unemployed, a single mother, overweight, too tall, too short. Anything that you can think of that may have led to rejection during your search for a perfect man.
Now you need a list of what’s important to you.
The things that really matter. The dealmakers and the dealbreakers. Dealbreaker can be things such as marital status, drinking or smoking, anything that you could not see yourself accepting in a man, no matter how great he is. Dealmakers are things that can make someone you might not otherwise date, seem worth your time. These can be things such as shared interests, children, or religion. Once again make this a short list and then number them in order of importance.
Remember to look at the lists of things you have to offer.
Your lists should match up. Don’t look for a man who is not looking for you. If he doesn’t want children and you have children, don’t think he’ll change. If you’re a workaholic, don’t list spending time together, unless you’ll really make the time to do it. If you don’t want children now, will you in the future, which may make not wanting children at all, a dealbreaker.
To find your perfect man you need to start looking at these lists. As you learn more about a man tick off the items on the list. Pay close attention to the dealbreakers and the things you don’t want. It’s easy to let a man’s looks tempt you into forgetting your list. Remember looking for your perfect man is not about immediate gratification, it’s about long-term happiness.
Compromising on the things you want will only lead to resentment if you begin a relationship.
Don’t think you can change someone. The time and energy you would spend trying to change them could have been spent with a man that’s already what you’re looking for.
Don’t expect this to happen quickly. It can, that’s always possible. But you need to be patient. You may need to kiss many frogs to get your prince, but by sticking to your lists you can drop some of the frogs before you pucker up.
Most women are looking for a perfect man, even when you’re in a realtionship, you may seek perfection in your partner.
I there is no perfect man, every man has flaws, faults, and deficiencies of some kind. So, is it possible to find a perfect man? No. However, it is possible to find the perfect man for you. There’s a huge difference. Every woman has some idea of what would make a man perfect, but since each person is different these qualities differ from woman to woman.